Chika Jonah Writes

Tag: love

  • Red roses aren’t enough

    A frown was on her face when he walked in. That made him realize something was wrong and that something was not going to go well for him. His only hope is that she forgives him like she always does

    “You did that shit again didn’t you? Answer me!”. She demanded

    “It’s not the way you think baby”, he pleaded.

    “Don’t you dare lie to me. You keep making me feel like I’m nothing. I cant even trust a word you say. Everyday its the same shit”. She shouted at him.

    “Please…please… baby you know i love you. You can see it in my eyes. I need you. I need you in my future. I’m…so…sorry”. He begged as his voice softened.

    “I don’t want to have a future with someone who thinks he is free to do whatever he pleases regardless of my feelings”, she was so exhausted “i feel like a fool for always taking you back in, for thinking that you’d be better for this relationship”, she said in disgust, “when the truth is, its going to be the same thing always and am just so tired. Its enough.

    Why do we fall for their pretence all over again ?
    Why do we give in to their mock change?
    Why do we believe their truth for lies and their lies for truth?

    Their sweet words triggers our emotions
    The red roses changes the frown to a smile
    The cuddle makes us lean closer than we should
    Their tears melts our resolve

    The emotions which was gifted to the woman to be her greatest asset of sensitivity has become her weakness.

    The strength which was given to the woman to build her empire and rise above those against her, has now been trampled on.

    The wisdom which was a gift to discern the true path in life and decisions has now been clouded by selfish desires and others judgment.

    Those core values and principles that set you apart from the world have now been mocked and reduced to mere normality.

    I don’t think it is too late to take a stand for what you truly deserve. Its never too late to let go of the vulnerability and hold on to your strength. Start unlocking the doors hiding what is right for you.

    There is no use staying if you cant accept everything that comes with him. The good, bad and evil, even when the bad surpasses all.

    If moving on requires a fresh start then start it without any toxic person or environment. Do what you’ve got to do.

    Dance with the wind and be free.

    Here’s to new fruitful beginnings. Amen!

  • What happens when you exhaust everything in you?

    Your dreams may be shattered in a twinkle of an eye
    Dream anyways

    You may be criticized for laughing when mourning
    Laugh anyways

    Your help may be used against you
    Help anyways

    Your love my be ignored and not reciprocated
    Love anyways

    Your vision may be seen as a piece of trash
    Visionalize anyways

    Your prayers may not be answered now
    Pray anyways

    Your Righteousness may not be seen
    Be righteous anyways

    The Road may get tough
    Be tough anyways

    Your commitment may be fruitless
    Be committed anyways

    You may get what you don’t expect
    Be expectant anyways

    The fight may get weary and tiring
    Fight anyways

    Your true intentions may be misunderstood
    Be true to yourself anyways

    The wind may be hard, the rain may get heavy, the trees may fall but…
    The birds sing anyways

  • The Shocking response to “You’re beautiful”

    Thank you guys for your feedbacks on my last blog post. You make this blog what it truly is.

    Something awkward happened few days ago. I still cant get over it (laughs). On my way to work on a very cloudy morning, i and other passengers dropped down from the taxi and while walking to hop into another one, i looked at the lady beside me and; Gosh! She looked terrific; light skinned, gorgeous hair, simple make over and dressed in a pretty red straight skirt and a stripped shirt that hugged her body firmly. I couldn’t resist, so i walked up to her

    “Ma’am you look really lovely, i must say”. I said still smiling.

    She looked at me for what seemed like fifteen seconds and continued walking.

    “Really?… It left me dumbfounded.

    Later i told my friend about the incidence and she burst into laughter

    “Oh Chika, your too much compliment has landed you in trouble”, she continued giggling, “you compliment people at the weirdest time ever”. She said finally.

    “But i mean, a compliment is a good thing, the other lady i complimented, ended up blessing me, hugging me and even blushing all through the day”, i said confused, “does it mean there is a right time and place to give a harmless compliment?” I wondered.

    “I think so, anyways, you’re really good at giving compliments. This was just a bad one . Don’t over think it, okay?

    “Okay”. I replied.

    An honest compliment is the greatest gift given to a man who’s had a bad day. Compliment is a boost to our confidence

    True to my friends word. I cant keep quiet when i see or hear a commendable thing. Its like i wear compliment everywhere i go, ready to unleash it on the next person that walks by me. (No wonder its listed as one of the FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES; i still wonder why its not my love language).

    I compliment a lot, Anyhow and at anytime. But this particular incidence didn’t sit well with me. so I had to ask a few people for their views on this subject; Is there a right time and place to compliment a person? and below are their responses:

    There is no right time to compliment a person – you should compliment people as often as possible because everybody needs sincere compliments, it helps us love & appreciate ourselves more & become better people. This is both for the complementer & the person receiving the compliments. There is no right place to give a person a compliment – we should compliment people anywhere, actually as we go.
    This will show you are sincere with your compliments because people get it anytime & anywhere from you.

    OLABANJI

    Maybe on their birthdays and days that matters to them.
    Hmm. I don’t think there is a right place to compliment a person.

    SOPHIA.

    You can compliment anyone anytime, it depends on what it is. If you expect a reaction, then you want to do that when they are in a good place to reciprocate, but then when they are in a bad place your compliment might just be the light they need to feel good.
    But make sure you are not doing it out of turn, so it’s not perceived wrongly. You can compliment anyone anywhere. But what changes is the language or approach you use. It has to be appropriate for the occasion.

    JOHN MADUFORO.

    First of all, we have to know what a compliment means, and it means An expression of praise, congratulation or respect. So in that regard, i would say there is no right time, or place someone does something commendable.

    OG.

    I would love to hear your responses to the question, that would help clear some misconceptions regarding this issue. And also help clear my confusion too

    We’ll continue tomorrow, watch out for my next blog post. Hit the follow button to get a notification when i post a blog post. I love y’all.