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  • A Complete and Comprehensive Guide to Adulting for Gen Zs. 

    A Complete and Comprehensive Guide to Adulting for Gen Zs. 

    Generation Z popularly known as Gen Z are people born between 1997 to 2012 and adulting for Gen Zs has proven to be a struggle. While I know that It would be impossible for anyone to tell you how to be an adult, we will try. First off, you have to know that there is a right and wrong way to be an adult. Ideally, one needs to find a balance between their own values, desires and society’s expectations of them as adults. Which brings me to the first question…

    What exactly is Adulthood?

    In short, adulthood is a term that defines the metamorphosis of one from boyhood to manhood or girlhood to womanhood. A person reaches full physical and intellectual maturity during the period of adulthood in their lifespan. It encompasses all the processes that contribute to the development of youth and beyond. Adulthood is commonly believed to begin around the age of 20 or 21 which is the Generation Z phase. 

    Adulting is an urban slang that has gained popularity over the past decade. It describes the struggles, changes, and realities that come with the transition into adulthood. Adulting speaks of all that goes into one’s response to the ordinary tasks required of a responsible adult. This phenomenon cuts across all facets of a person’s life as they begin to think, change, and behave in a certain way, often in the direction that’s socially acceptable and termed “a positive adult,” and on some occasions towards the more frowned upon “bad adult.” 

    Adulting for Gen Zs

    What are the common signs of Adulthood?

    An individual undergoes several changes during adulthood. Some of these changes are gender- and individual-specific, while others are generic. Some of these changes include:

    • Physical changes are characterized by an increase in muscle mass until the mid-20s, after which it slowly decreases. Up until approximately age 30, skeletal mass rises, and throughout adulthood, cholesterol levels accumulate in the arteries. Hormone production diminishes with age, and heart muscle weakens over time without detectable disease.
    • Intellectual changes are characterized by a decreased processing speed in older adults and slower response times in intellect and physical tasks due to changes in the central nervous system. 
    • For learning and memory, young adults are generally known to have superior learning capacity, while older adults excel at retaining general information and cultural knowledge.

    However, it is important to note that the presentation of these changes is gradual and different, and individual experiences may vary irrespective of whether they are all Gen Zs or even millennials 

    In addition to these physiological and intellectual changes, adulthood also brings with it some subtle changes. For the most part, adulthood encompasses a rich and diverse phase marked by personal growth, responsibilities, and continued learning. It is a complex and diverse phenomenon characterized by some less imposing challenges like:

    • Balancing work responsibilities, career growth, and financial stability can lead to career and financial pressures. Managing expenses, saving, and planning for retirement have become crucial and demanding. Most Gen Zs find managing their finances difficult. Striving for career and financial stability causes one to develop a sense of responsibility as they become more thoughtful in their decision-making and focus more on long-term consequences. 
    • Navigating romantic relationships and family becomes more of a struggle because marriage and parenting can be complex. Adulting for Gen Zs will mean that your relationships undergo a shift from focusing on peer groups to a greater emphasis on family, romantic partnerships, and professional networks. This change also marks the need to develop a sense of belonging and community. Adults often seek to define their place within larger social structures such as professional organizations, communities, and religious institutions. This can lead to deeper and more meaningful connections, but it also challenges the balance of various social roles. Therefore, it becomes even more pressing that one does not burn out while trying to find and maintain balance.
    • Health and wellness for adults go beyond taking care not to fall sick, as maintaining a healthy lifestyle and managing stress become more crucial. A big part of being healthy as an adult is taking special care of your mental health, as one becomes more susceptible to mental health challenges like anxiety or depression. Having a firm understanding of yourself, your values, and your beliefs can lead to an improved ability to manage and understand one’s emotions, resulting in more stable relationships and better coping strategies for stress and adversity.
    • Identity and self-discovery are key parts of adulthood, as understanding one’s purpose, values, and personal growth is an ongoing process that defines the person. Having the right cognitive abilities is a key indicator of this. The enhanced ability to think critically and analyze complex situations gives rise to better decision-making in personal and professional contexts, as well as increased creativity in problem-solving that shapes and refines your perspective. The shift from immediate gratification to long-term planning and goal-setting is also a function of the journey to identity and self-discovery. Thinking more strategically about career, finances, and personal development leads to a greater capacity for abstract thought and the ability to see the bigger picture. This can influence philosophical and existential considerations, such as the meaning of one’s life and place in the world. The refinement of morals built on altruistic foundations is indicative of the growing need to approach moral and ethical beliefs with a better understanding of one’s life experiences. The result of this is increased altruism. There is a growing tendency to consider others’ well-being and engage in volunteer work, charitable activities, and community service.
    • Finally, ageing and problems centred on mortality can be emotionally challenging, as dealing with situations like the loss and grief of loved ones, health, or abilities becomes a major part of the journey, and so the success of one’s navigation of these very complex and vast phenomena (adulthood) is based on everyone’s response to their unique experience.

    Even though these challenges vary with individuality, seeking support, self-reflection, and adaptability are essential during this phase of life. 

    Adulting for Gen Zs

    Adulting For Gen Zs made effortless with these 10 Essentials

    Frankly speaking, all Gen Zs want to do is go through life with so much vibe and ‘steeze’ that often life presents situations that require the adult approach that tend to struggle. Well, we can’t blame them because they just crossed the teenage bracket and are beginning to experience the different sides of life. 

    Now, let’s break down all the jargon with a quick and simple rundown of the key things you need to know about adulting for Gen Zs and surviving adulthood. Here are some quick essentials to help you navigate adulthood effectively and responsibly:

    1. Adulting for Gen Zs begins with taking responsibility for your actions and decisions. Accept the consequences of your behaviour and learn from past mistakes.
    1. Manage your money, save, and invest wisely, but don’t forget to spend on yourself, as economic self-love is critical. So, plan for your future, retirement, and emergencies while leaving room for enjoyment in the present. 
    1. Take regular walks and eat a balanced diet. Imbibe the culture of hospital check-ups and address health issues promptly.
    1. Mental health is as important as all other aspects of well-being. Practice self-care and meditation in your daily life, and don’t forget to seek help if you’re struggling with mental health issues. 
    1. Always be open to personal development alongside the professional. Continue to educate yourself through formal and informal means, remaining curious and open to new knowledge and experiences. 
    1. By sharpening your communication skills, you can develop excellent social skills. Learn to listen more than you speak, but always make your voice heard. This helps you to build and maintain relationships, network, and collaborate effectively with others, both in personal and professional settings.
    1. Develop ethics and values that you will take pride in. Be punctual, respectful, and dedicated in all parts of your life, not just your career. Strive to maintain a healthy work-life balance by scheduling time for hobbies, relaxation, and family.
    1. Time management, problem-solving adaptability, and self-sufficiency are important life skills that should be developed in adulting for Gen Zs, as they help you create some sort of order in the chaos. 
    1. On your way to adulthood, do not discount faith and religion, because they go a long way in reminding you of who you are and should strive to be.

    Contribute to the community. Be environmentally conscious and socially responsible in life, as it is a key part of building a better world for posterity. 

    Conclusion 

    In conclusion, adulting for Gen Zs is about continuously growing and striving to be the best version of yourself. By focusing on personal development, cultivating strong social skills, advancing professionally, and maintaining ethical standards, you can navigate adulthood successfully and positively impact those around you.

  • Living a Stress Free Life in 2021. Is it possible?

    Living a stress free life
    Andrew Neel – Pexel

    Living a stress free life in 2021 is on everyone’s wishlist right now.

    I mean, I crave it.

    I hate having to eat only crackers the whole day because I’m too stressed from work to cook. I hate having to see my mom on some days because she is too stressed to chit chat.

    So yeah, I haven’t seen anyone who likes stress, or enjoys been stressed.

    I’ve seen some of my friends who have been so bitchy and unapproachable because of stress. Some are disgusted with their work, not because it’s too hot to handle, but because their clients are embodied with stress; they carry stress like a fragrance to choke anyone who attends to them.

    Its 2021 and I wish I am leaping for joy, but no, its been a hard year and I’m pretty sure I’m speaking everybody’s mind here. You’d have to work tripple times harder to get results. The economy is a mess. The insecurity is alarming. Its harder for students to study with pressure, work, and challenges. Its hard for parents to provide for their families. Its hard for youths to live freely.

    So freaky yeah! Everyone is stressed. You’re stressed, I’m stressed, even though we hate to admit it because, we’ve normalized stress, but your heart knows the truth.

    You have accepted that stress is the order of the day. To put food on the table you have to be stressed. To pay your bills and fend for yourself you have to be stressed. To build your carreer you have to be stressed. So living a stress free life has become a myth for you. Living a stress free life has become nonsense in a country like ours.

    Which is why I’m telling you that, its not a myth. There’s nothing good about stress.

    Cottonbro – Pexel

    Is Living a Stress Free Life Possible?.

    Yes!

    It is possible.

    In the past I’d have said No, but now I know better. Living a stress free life is truly possible.

    Stress is simply applying force or pressure to both your internal and external body which causes strain and deformation.

    So it is possible to live your life without applying pressure, and force so much so that it could hurt you.

    It is possible to not pressure yourself. It is possible to not carry so much stress in your hand bag. It is also possible to not be stressed mentally and physically.

    Living a stress free life is achievable and I’ll show you how.

    You want that don’t you?

    Anna Sheets – Pexel

    How to Live a Stress Free Life in 2021

    Living a stress free life is not living a perfect life. Living a stress free life is simply finding ways to reduce, manage, eliminate stress, and incorporating it into your lifestyle. And you can do that by doing the following;

    Examining your life

    Have you ever been in a room where someone just emanates stressful energy? How did you feel? I bet you were so pissed that you couldn’t wait for the person to leave.

    Now what if the person with the stressful energy is you? Have you thought about that?

    That is where examininig your life comes in. You have to examine how people react when you are around, how they react when you leave the room, if they include you in important conversations or if they ask you for assistance. This would ensure to know your stress level, and how much that stress have affected others negatively. From there on, you’d know how to tackle it.

    Simplifying your life.

    In living a stress free life you must first remove stress by simplifying your life. You do that by taking away anything that may impose pressure and cause stress.

    For instance, if you know that there’s always traffic every morning on your way to work, and you know a shorter, free and accessible road you can use, but still go a head to follow the traffic jam road, then you’re increasing your stress level by making things difficult for you.

    Setting boundaries

    To live a stress free life you must set boundaries. You wouldn’t be the person that allow any jargon to trample on your mental health, or allow anybody to project their frustrations on you. Set work boundaries by not accepting jobs that would stress your blood away, or accept jobs overtime when you should be relaxing at home simply because your boss asked.

    Set relationship boundaries that seperates you from toxic people, or friends that dampen your self esteem. Set family boundaries that doesn’t allow your parents make decisions concerning your life, or allow traditional mentality hoard your freedom. To start living a stress free life, setting boundaries can eliminate stress entirely.

    Self care/Self love

    This body of yours is a work of art. It is not a machine that should be pushed over. You are not a pushover. Your body can shutdown from strain at anytime, and when it does, I don’t think you’d be able to forgive yourself for allowing it get to that point.

    Take proper care of your physical body. Eat properly, (sarmlife.com dinner food plan is super helpful) spoil yourself, pamper yourself, take breaks occasionally, and watch how those crankiness, and stress muscles, fade away.

    Alex Green – Pexel

    At the end of the day, know that, it is not stress that puts food on the table, it is work.
    Its called hard work, not stress work. You can work hard and not be stressed. I’m not saying you’d never be stressed. No. I’m simply asking that your priority should be, to consciously not increase your stress level or mount pressure on your self. Eliminating stress should be your ultimate focus as you go live your life.

    All the best! Please drop a comment.

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  • 4 Killers of Communication in professional & personal relationships

    Killers of communication are like termites that ruin communication most times before it even starts. We are in the last days of the month and truthfully, a lot of things went down for me personally in this month and lately I’ve been thinking of bringing up the conversation with my folks and that was when I remembered this story I’m about to tell you now. laughs Don’t worry its nothing dark & daunting.

    Killers of communication

    When I was in my teens; I think between seventeen and nineteen, I wanted to go visit my friends. I missed my secondary (high) school friends and I hadn’t seen the few that lived in Portharcourt then since we all graduated so I made it my mission to reunite with them. I dressed up looking all beautiful & sweet and the next thing was to tell my mom. How would I tell her? Was the next question that popped into my brain. You may say “just tell her na.” Well, you know it doesn’t work that way in an African Nigerian home where staying inside the house is the norm.

    I was scared of her rejection but finally mustered the courage to go to her.

    “Mummy I’m going to my friends place at….”, don’t worry I’ll come back on time.”

    Before she could rain down her investigative questions and silly reasons why I shouldn’t go I went harder, “See mummy I’m already late. We need to meet and share admission details, don’t worry I’ll be back soon.” I smiled and ran off immediately without waiting for all the lectures that would accompany her approval. Hahaha

    After the assurance that I’d come back very early, traffic had other plans for me. I got home by 7pm (not too bad) and I didn’t know how to face my mum. It was a chilly evening but I was sweating like someone that chased a rat to kill. I finally opened the door after what felt like hours and was faced with my parents in the living room.

    “Mummy good evening. Daddy good evening.” I smiled to lighten the mood, “Kai! Mummy the traffic eh. Thank God I’m back oh.” They still did not say anything. I had to find a way to slip into my room. “Let me go and wash the plates.” I said finally and slowly walked into my room. I gave a sigh of relief. ‘Thank God its over.’ I muttered to myself and began undressing when I heard an earth shaking voice that told me it wasn’t over.

    “Chika! Chika! Chika! How many times did I call you? So its Rumuokoro you went to that made you come back by this time? Eh this girl.” I stopped undressing and stood in shock. Too afraid to reply her or come out of my room. That door felt like the only thing protecting me.

    “You better be careful. That boy that you are going to see will be the end of you.” At this point I burst out laughing with my hand covering my mouth.

    “If you like get pregnant. But know that my God knows that I have done my own…” She kept on talking and talking. I got angry. Why would she say i went to see some boy? Or Why would she say all that and think in that manner? Maybe its a mothers tongue. A general thing with mothers but I didn’t think there was any reason for her to react in that way. I told her who I was going to see and even told her the place. I communicated with her properly. Or so I thought. What had gone wrong in our communication? I asked.

    As a young woman, almost ten years later and I can see what went wrong with our communication and those things are the killers of communication. Having an effective communication is not just speaking out your thoughts & opinions. It is more about making sure that your words are clear & is properly understood by the other person. A clear and consise communication is the goal but with killers of communication present, it proves difficult to achieve effective communication.

    Which is why I’m going to be sharing with you these killers of communication with the hopes that it helps you make a difference from today.

    4 Killers Of Communication

    1. Fear

    Killers of communication like fear is what destroys effective communication from the mind, even before the conversation begins. The fear of how the other person would react to what you say, or how they would perceive things has stopped you from communicating properly. This fear can make you say something serious lightly, it can make you blabber thereby causing mockery & disregard.

    This fear can dampen your confidence. It can make you procrastinate; A conversation you were supposed to have with your boss concerning an urgent matter would be pushed till tomorrow because you’re scared that he/she would not see things from your point of view.

    1. Lack of details & specifics

    If I had told my mum that I was going to see a female friend and maybe even told her she was my classmate & that we went to the same school, then things would have ended differently. I hid a lot of basic details that would have made it more accepting and more understandable for her.

    Much unhappiness has come into the world because of bewilderment and things left unsaid.
    Fyodor Dostoevsky

    Lack of details and specifics are killers of communication that determine the outcome of any conversation you engage in. When communicating with someone, its important you be as open as possible because one missing detail that should foster that communication can dampen it negatively, even destroy your relationship with that person.

    1. Assumptions

    When Henry Winkler one of my best actors said; Assumptions are the termites of relationships. He wasn’t wrong.

    I hate this one oh. Human beings can assume. Ah! Some people can assume for Africa. Just wear something that shows your curves and endowments as a woman and the entire neighborhood would conclude you’re a runs girl. Sometimes I wonder if they enjoy it. In my scenario, my mum just assumed in her head that it was a man I was going to see and that created a picture that she stuck with.

    The bad thing about assumption is that; it is contrary to the truth, its not a fact and neither is it reality. Looks can be decieving. Don’t assume something that isn’t there. Listen to the other person’s story, the choice to believe it or not solely depends on you. Instead of assuming that they are lying, prove your theory with an evidence or else you’d end up ruining a persons self respect & integrity.

    1. Tone & Translations.

    Wrong usage of tone and words are killers of communication. How you may ask? I’ll indulge you.

    Apologizing to someone you hurt without any sign of remorse is an example of wrong translation. You may have said the right word “I’m sorry.” But how would the person forgive you if you don’t even feel any atom of regret for your actions. Sometimes its not what you say that is wrong but how you say it.

    Yet other times, you use the wrong languages; “Please get that for me bitch.” What nonsense? You are begging someone to get something for you and you’re calling the person bitch. Why don’t you get it yourself. For clear and effective communication, the right tone and words are super important.

    We are at a time where distance is a problem for families and couples to communicate, so communications are mostly done through mobile devices and social media platforms. Where your face can’t be seen, your choice of tone would go a long way. Use the right tone. Be warm, respectful and sure.

    Other killers of communication include jumping to conclusion which is similar to assumptions, beliefs, timing, anger etc.
    Henceforth, I hope these points would makes you make a difference in communicating.

    Did you learn anything? Or you’ve got more pints to share? Or a different experience that killed your communication with a friend or family? Please share in the comment.

    3 women’s story of pain, loss & friendship; read here