Chika Jonah Writes

Tag: happiness

  • 3 Effective Ways To Find Peace Of Mind And Happiness

    Today its Peace of mind and happiness. Last week we talked about unexpectations then a question popped in my head, would I be at peace when something unexpected happen? Nah. I doubt that. Truth is my mind would be in constant turmoil thinking of how to handle the blow and how to face this new pursuit.

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    Peace of mind and happiness by Moses Ameachi

    When James was informed that his shop was engulfed in flames. He was thrown off balance. Loosing everything, the sweat, blood, money was all gone. Everything was lost. He went from thinking of how to keep growing in business to how he would start afresh all over again. His peace was denied. How would he find peace of mind again and happiness?

    The same day John went on one knee and proposed to his girl friend of three years. And beautifully she said “yes I will.” It was the most heartwarming feeling ever to those watching and such a big blessing & celebration for John whose heart couldn’t stop beating. laughs But later that night all the happiness disappeared.

    The sweet memory was gone now replaced with the thought of having a new responsibility. What if he failed at his marriage? What if he makes his soon to be wife unhappy? Would forever be theirs or would their marriage fade along the line? Would he be a terrible father like his own dad? He tossed and turned all through the night. As happy as he thought he was, somewhere alone he fought. He was faced with a battle that denied his peace of mind. How would he find his peace of mind and happiness again?

    Unlearn that the only battle we face is a physical battle.

    The biggest battle we face is that of the mind. We first wage war in our mind before we throw physical punches. Someone asked me yesterday “what is happiness to you?” And I thought, Peace. Peace. When I was the happiest was when I had peace. Sometimes I laughed the loudest but I was not happy. Sometimes I made silly dance videos but i wasn’t happy at all. Other times I played so hard yet I knew I was deeply sad. So happiness is not when you laugh the most, not when you eat your favorite food or talk to your favorite person but its when you are at peace. When your mind is as free as a bird. When you feel like flying.

    Does this mean every time I drank my favorite drink; caprisonne or spoke to that special someone that makes me smile that I wasn’t happy? No. It only means that I can be happy at intervals. That there are little things that would brighten our world and our faces even when our mind is not at peace. Little deposits of goodness that constitutes our happiness and lighten our heart but doesn’t give us the win we desire. Those deposits are what keeps us going when the storm rages. Peace of mind and happiness is like mother and child. Peace births happiness.

    A mother is happy once she hears the news of a child growing in her, and as this child grows in her she is both happy and sad because of the restlessness and experience that come with pregnancy and childbirth. Yet, she is only a mother once the child is born. That is her win. That is the cue that the battle is won.

    Mandy Kloppers shared 40 whopping ways to find inner peace and I must say, that tip she shared was helpful and would give you relief.

    But as someone that would always tell you the bitter truth whether you like it or not or want to hear it or not, do everything on that list and you still won’t find peace. You would not even remember that anything like affirmations exists or breathing therapy or books or yoga. Who does yoga in this part of the world? Books fire! laughs

    So are you ready for me to show you how to find peace of mind and happiness?

    3 effective ways to find peace of mind and happiness

    Acceptance.

    Acceptance is accepting that this thing is gone or that this situation has happened. Henrik Edberg said “let go of things you cannot control. Acceptance is accepting that some things are beyond your control and that there’s so little you can do. Acceptance is also acknowledging what needs immediate attention. As much as there are things you can’t change there are also some difficult situations where you’d have to step in and act.

    Acceptance is the first step to gaining peace of mind and happiness. A lot of people stay in denial for a long time, due to fear, stress or weakness. But as soon as they mentally accept the deed then they’d see a light so bright that it brightens their lives.

    God.

    God is the giver of peace. I cannot over emphasize the importance of a relationship with God. If you’re not communicating with God then you’re missing the most important relationship ever.

    In fact you’re missing life itself. His very nature is peace. His spirit comforts us and takes away our burden. Start seeing him as a friend, talk to him as a friend, pour out your heart and mind to him and watch him renew your mind. Watch him operate on your mind. Your peace would be endless. Everlasting. Still confused on how to communicate intimately with God? Read a guide here on Christian intimacy with the Holy spirit.

    Little things.

    Regardless of whether you are void of peace of mind and happiness, there are little things that excites you and put smiles on your face. Indulge in those things. It may be talking to a friend, traveling, watching football or movies, driving, partying, exercising etc. For me watching a movie takes my mind off the chaos.

    When you accept that there are some things you don’t have the power to control, bring it at the foot of Christ, talk to God about it and as you find happiness in little things you love, gradually you’d have your peace of mind and happiness restored back to you.

    A win.

    What is happiness to you? And do you agree that these points can help you regain your peace of mind and happiness? Got more points to add? Share your thoughts and experience in the comment below.

  • The sharp contrast of needs and wants that has been ignored

    I went to a missionary secondary/high school and there’s this ceremony called Corpus Christi and Christ the king (the catholics would understand). They are two different ceremonies that are often times celebrated together towards the end of the year. We do that by walking round the community shouting, singing, dancing and praying; just celebrating Jesus Christ.

    It was always fun until your strength vanishes and tiredness kicks in. Fatigue from tired muscles, cracked voice from screaming for joy, weak legs from walking for so long, stomach noises from hunger, and dry throat from the hot sun and brown dust.
    As much as we tried to manage the situation and endure, we couldn’t ignore it forever. We were both hungry and thirsty. Food could wait but the dry air, hot sun and scorching heat made it impossible to stay without quenching our thirst. And water was the only solution. Water was what we needed.

    We walked through the villages and finally, we found a store. But unfortunately the water they had was sold out, which was not surprising because the whole crowd was thirsty. Then when we looked into the cooler we saw chilled bottles of coke staring at our faces. Oh lord! We were mesmerized. ( laughs* You know how that feels) it stared at us like our savior and we couldn’t stop ourselves. We wanted it and we bought it. Everyone drank theirs, I gulped mine on one go till it was empty. We left when we were done and joined the crowd. In less than fifteen minutes, we stared at each other again. We were much more thirsty than before.

    We thought coke would quench our thirst but we were just kidding ourselves. In the end nothing could truly quench out thirst like water.
    Instead we spent that money on coke and nothing changed, when we should have waited patiently till we got water and quench our thirst once and for all. But we ended up wasting resources and time.
    What was needed was to solve our problem permanently but instead we went for what we wanted to solve our problem immediately.

    Back to real talk

    There is a bold line between needs and wants. Often times we are chasing what we want without realizing what we truly need, that we wasting our precious time and money on the wrong things. Its the best thing to know what you want but its wiser to know what you need and where to place It in order avoid misplaced priorities.

    A man bagged a five million deal after years of hard work and he went to buy a Car of four million which was very foolish, sorry to say. I’m sure he must have been tired of trekking to work everyday, together with the crazy traffic. But what he failed to understand is that a car is a liability not an asset. He wanted a car but what he needed was to invest and when he’s got a steady stream of income, only then can he comfortably buy a car. He was back to square one.

    Someone told me sometime ago

    “Chika if God just makes me a millionaire, I’ll never ask him for anything again”. I laughed so hard hearing this and replied him immediately.

    “Who told you that if God makes you the wealthiest man in the world, you’ll stop asking him for anything? No way. That is when you’ll even want more from God. From more wealth comes more desires. Your requests would be endless. So stop joking”.

    God doesn’t even answer such prayers. He’ll only give you what he knows you need. Not the thousand and one things you want from him. And if your wants are included in what he blesses you with then Hallelujah!

    Not focusing on what is needed is like an infectious virus that spreads through every aspect of your world and threatens your potential for happiness. You can lose friendships, focus, passion and most importantly who you truly are.

    If you are finding it difficult to retract your path and find out who you are and what you want and need, I wrote a blog post on that, click here and follow the guidelines stated there.

    Its time to get rid of distraction and give attention to what we truly need than getting things we don’t really need.

    I would love to hear from you. Please share your thoughts in the comment section below. You can as well email me if you want talk