Author: Chika Jonah

  • Laugh through the fights

    The sound of the door banged so hard
    Left him with more guilt than ever
    Leaving behind the sad tears he heard
    That questioned the promises of forever.

    Those steps brought him back to reality
    Her enchanting face still hardened
    Only to prove it was just a fantasy
    Her never returned smile got him frightened
    Something was missing, her laughter.

    Sharing the same meal didn’t measure up
    Her perfect body beside him made it worse
    Sounds of her working fingers ate him up
    Her scent in his nostrils made it coarse.

    A hundred roses left the door still closed
    A thousand words was left her unshaken
    A million calls to say sorry got locked
    A trillion text of apologies left it broken.

    Memories of the past brought emotions
    A reminder of what they’ve been through
    Pictures of the events and traditions
    The trick was a lifetime of shared moments.

    The sound of her laughter filled the room
    Like a breath of fresh air bringing relief
    Anger disappears, swept by the broom
    With hands held together at a new belief.

    To laugh through it all
    Her laughter was all he needed

  • The side look of “You’re handsome”

    Today’s post is an extension of yesterday’s post. That you’re still here again means you’re awesome.

    It was a very busy day at the office that day, i was over seeing the accounts while my boss was going through our customers details. It was at that time they walked in; My client and his wife. I was more familiar with the husband and less familiar with the wife.
    “Hello sir, welcome”. I greeted.

    “Thank you. Good afternoon”. He answered.

    “Hi ma, hope you received our text message?” I asked.

    “Oh. Yes i did, didn’t realize it was from you guys. Thank you”. She said in gratitude.

    “You’re welcome”. I replied.

    “Okay lets see what we can come up for you”, we began brainstorming for ideas and when we stood up to organize all the items we finalized on, that was when i saw what he looked like. And my mouth gave me away.

    “By the way sir, you look cool in style and really amazing’, the wife turned and looked at me, my colleagues turned to this direction and smiled, ‘And for your age its very admirable. Well done sir”. I finally added smiling sheepishly.

    “Wow! This girl you’re so funny. Thank you so much. I hope we’ll get a huge discount today”. He said smiling, while we all laughed and continued working.

    After they left, the look on my bosses face told me she had something on her mind;

    “Chika did you see how that man’s wife was looking at you, this girl, one day your mouth will put you in trouble”, she shook her head sideways, ”let the woman not think that you want to snatch her husband oh”. She added finally.

    “For what? If she’s having negative thoughts, then that’s her business. She should be happy I’m appreciating her husband”. I said and walked away nonchalantly. The person i complimented was happy, i the complementer was happy and that was all that mattered.

    The thought that i did something good didn’t waver, but the thought that i may have made someone think badly of me, or may have made them see me in a different light made it less appealing.

    I had to ask this question to few people around me; Is it appropriate to compliment a person in the presence of their spouse or date? And here are their responses:

    For me this is relative. If I know the couples I would compliment the person in front of his/her spouse. If I don’t know the couples, I may or may not compliment or I may compliment them both. I would do this because now there is a third person involved who is emotionally attached & I don’t want to cause any unnecessary issue or trigger any suggestions because of my compliment.

    OLABANJI

    Yes anyone can. I don’t see anything wrong with it.

    SOPHIA

    I would say; Thread with caution.

    Because i may see it as disrespectful
    If my lady is there, even if she is okay with it I will use my head to tell the other person that there are boundaries.
    She’ll feel respected.
    Because sometimes people can overdo and others can take it wrongly when they feel you have said what they wish they told their spouse.

    JOHN MADUFORO

    I would say. This is for the bold. If you’re bold enough to do it. Than go for it. An honest compliment is never a wrong thing. You never can tell they may appreciate each other more, when is stranger is seeing something good in the person besides them.

    CHI

    I would also love to hear your responses on this matter. I’ll be in the comment section.

  • The Shocking response to “You’re beautiful”

    Thank you guys for your feedbacks on my last blog post. You make this blog what it truly is.

    Something awkward happened few days ago. I still cant get over it (laughs). On my way to work on a very cloudy morning, i and other passengers dropped down from the taxi and while walking to hop into another one, i looked at the lady beside me and; Gosh! She looked terrific; light skinned, gorgeous hair, simple make over and dressed in a pretty red straight skirt and a stripped shirt that hugged her body firmly. I couldn’t resist, so i walked up to her

    “Ma’am you look really lovely, i must say”. I said still smiling.

    She looked at me for what seemed like fifteen seconds and continued walking.

    “Really?… It left me dumbfounded.

    Later i told my friend about the incidence and she burst into laughter

    “Oh Chika, your too much compliment has landed you in trouble”, she continued giggling, “you compliment people at the weirdest time ever”. She said finally.

    “But i mean, a compliment is a good thing, the other lady i complimented, ended up blessing me, hugging me and even blushing all through the day”, i said confused, “does it mean there is a right time and place to give a harmless compliment?” I wondered.

    “I think so, anyways, you’re really good at giving compliments. This was just a bad one . Don’t over think it, okay?

    “Okay”. I replied.

    An honest compliment is the greatest gift given to a man who’s had a bad day. Compliment is a boost to our confidence

    True to my friends word. I cant keep quiet when i see or hear a commendable thing. Its like i wear compliment everywhere i go, ready to unleash it on the next person that walks by me. (No wonder its listed as one of the FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES; i still wonder why its not my love language).

    I compliment a lot, Anyhow and at anytime. But this particular incidence didn’t sit well with me. so I had to ask a few people for their views on this subject; Is there a right time and place to compliment a person? and below are their responses:

    There is no right time to compliment a person – you should compliment people as often as possible because everybody needs sincere compliments, it helps us love & appreciate ourselves more & become better people. This is both for the complementer & the person receiving the compliments. There is no right place to give a person a compliment – we should compliment people anywhere, actually as we go.
    This will show you are sincere with your compliments because people get it anytime & anywhere from you.

    OLABANJI

    Maybe on their birthdays and days that matters to them.
    Hmm. I don’t think there is a right place to compliment a person.

    SOPHIA.

    You can compliment anyone anytime, it depends on what it is. If you expect a reaction, then you want to do that when they are in a good place to reciprocate, but then when they are in a bad place your compliment might just be the light they need to feel good.
    But make sure you are not doing it out of turn, so it’s not perceived wrongly. You can compliment anyone anywhere. But what changes is the language or approach you use. It has to be appropriate for the occasion.

    JOHN MADUFORO.

    First of all, we have to know what a compliment means, and it means An expression of praise, congratulation or respect. So in that regard, i would say there is no right time, or place someone does something commendable.

    OG.

    I would love to hear your responses to the question, that would help clear some misconceptions regarding this issue. And also help clear my confusion too

    We’ll continue tomorrow, watch out for my next blog post. Hit the follow button to get a notification when i post a blog post. I love y’all.