Category: Stories

  • GUEST POST : The love walk; My first time in a five star hotel

    This is a compelling story that made me laugh as much as it made me think a lot. There’s a smart question at the end of this story. I still don’t know the answer to the question so maybe you’ll help me by answering it after reading this story

    My featured guest writer this week is; Ewenla Olabanji.

    BIOLiving a purposeful life and maximizing life’s gifts is the major thing that drives Ewenla Olabanji and everything he does.
    He believes our world would be a much better place if more people are living in their purpose – doing what they are meant to do with their lives and also maximizing everything life has got to offer.

    This is his core purpose – to help people develop the right mindset so they can utilize their potentials, maximize life’s gifts and fulfill their life’s purpose.

    He is a budding entrepreneur, a life coach in training & a musician.

    You can message him
    On Instagram – @eolabanjisamuel
    Facebook – Olabanji Ewenla
    Email: Banjidyte20@yahoo.com

    Here’s what Olabanji says;

    So am just going to briefly share a long story that may be all you need to face this year.

    I remember vividly that Sunday on the 27th of August 2017, it was a Sunday like every other Sunday; I had gone to church early in the morning, did my duties on the piano keyboard as a musician and gone back home to rest. However one thing was different, I was going to be attending a business meeting that evening for the first time in my life at one of the best hostels in Lagos (Sheraton Hotel & Towers)

    Interestingly, I didn’t even know why I was been invited but I decided to attend, majorly because it would be my first time in Sheraton Hotel. winks*

    I was nervous and at the same time excited like a young man going out on a first date with his first love.

    The friend who invited me was a lady so I guess that was probably another reason why I was nervous & excited.

    I don’t know if you’ve experienced that strong feeling of excitement born out of curiosity because you didn’t know what was going to happen or what to expect? That was the feeling I felt.

    Fast forward some hours later, I arrived at the Hotel a little bit late and the meeting was about to get started; I couldn’t meet my friend who invited me, neither could I even enjoy the breathtaking interiors of the hotel; I just rushed into the hall as i was directed to, got myself a seat somewhere in the middle as the presentation was about to begin.

    To cut the long story short, the 3hrs of that evening on 27th of August 2017 brought me into another phase of my life – when I got home later that night after the meeting I couldn’t really sleep.

    Today Monday, 17th of January, 2020 makes it about 28 months after that whole evening experience.
    I look back at the past 2years and i am amazed by how much my life has changed from that one event of 3hrs; only people who knew me before that Sunday may be able to share the tremendous transformation that has occurred in my life.

    Looking forward, as we are all prepping to live life in 2020 and the next decade, one of the things we can do for ourselves is to be open to surprises life will launch at us – either good or bad; everything that can change your life for good or for bad can happen in just few hours, few minutes or even few seconds.
    In most cases, you won’t recognize the changes as at the time they are occurring until months or even years later.

    A lot of things will happen this year and over the next decade; be open minded to opportunities and challenges; be sensitive to changes; be mindful of times and seasons; be careful in dealing with people; watch and pray.

    If you are open to surprises whether good or bad, you will grow through the experience of whatever it is.
    It may not be easy, it may not make sense initially, it won’t be logical – your mind might not comprehend the situation; however because you are open you will give yourself the privilege to grow from the experience.

    This is my testimony from that Sunday evening on the 27th of August, 2017. I have grown a whole lot from that experience; I am becoming a better person, I have met incredibly amazing people like Chika Jonah, I have made more money, I have done things I never imagined before then I could do, I have been to places I never imagine I could be.

    Has it been easy … NO!
    Has it been worth it … DEFINITELY YES!!!
    And am eternally grateful to God for giving me the privilege of the experience.

    PS: I wish I could share with you the whole experience but time and space would not permit me to.
    However, if there is one thing you should know at this point is that: the lady is now married and I am partially single. *laughs*

    Please permit me to ask this question, if you are open minded you’ll get the answer easily.

    The short story I shared in the post, do you think its a love story, an heartbreak story, a business story, a life story or a story I just made up?

    Please I would really love to hear your responses

    Thank you very much.

  • Where did the wooing mission go wrong?

    Guys I must applaud you. You men are amazing. How do you guys get the heart to ask a lady out? I mean its really not an easy thing wooing a lady. Its like gambling and it could either be a win win or a total loss. Whoop! You guys have balls. And when they face rejection they still come out strong and healthy. You guys deserve a pat on the shoulder for all that you face in the hands of we ladies.

    But can you guys stop doing this. Please just stop doing the two things I’m going to point out right now. I’m not a relationship coach but sometimes I hate it when you do this and so does most ladies.

    1. The beginning line

    I went to get something from a close by store that day and I noticed a car buying fruits by the road side. When I came back I still saw him and that was when he stopped me (I knew he saw me passed and probably waited till I came back to act). He wined down the glass.

    “Hello”. I continued walking “Hello”, I heard again and turned back to see who needed my attention.

    “Oh Hi”. I replied.

    “Have we met before? You look familiar”. He asked curiously, expecting a conversation.

    “No, I don’t think I know you”. I replied shaking my head sideways.

    “Do you live around here? I’m trying to recall where I know you from”. He said again. Oh now he is trying to know where I live I thought to myself. “I’m very sure you don’t know me okay”. I said sternly trying to walk away

    “By the way I’m Chris. And you really really look familiar. I feel like I know you from somewhere”. He repeated. This time I was fed up. And felt like punching him. Was this the best he could do? I wondered.

    “Noooo!! You don’t know me and I don’t know you. Simple”. I replied with clenched teeth and stormed out, trying to be civilized, walked inside and burst out laughing.

    Why use that line? Of all the dating line you could use, why that one? Don’t you know that it makes you men look foolish and hopeless (sorry to say) Why are you asking her if she’s familiar with you? Does she look like your mother or does she look like your TV crush or does she look like the girl you see in your dreams? Please don’t. Just greet her and turn back. Please I’m pleading.

    2. Jumping the line of friendship.

    You meet her today and next week your line is “Chika I really like you. Can we please go on a date together? Would you go on a date with me? For what? Are you John Wick? (laughs).

    Let me say it in our Nigerian style “babe I like you. I really want you to be my girlfriend. I for like date you oh”

    Guys why?

    Don’t you know how to build friendship.
    I’m not saying what you are feeling is a lie. Its alright if its love at first sight but please keep it to yourself. Don’t tell her three days after you met her that you love her so much and that since that day you’ve not been able to sleep.

    Its the plans that you’ve laid out to achieve that is giving you sleepless night not her. Four years is not even enough to know someone so why jumping the line and trying to get a grown ass woman in just one weak or one month of meeting her.

    Build friendship so that you’ll eventually get all of her. If you jump the line of friendship you may end up getting nothing or getting fragments of her.
    To avoid rejection, disgrace and long term suffering, build friendship.

    Be wise

    See you in 2020

  • Welcome to the Fantasy vs Reality of Love

    Last night I was listening to ‘one of us’ by ABBA my long time favorites (when ever I play the album all I think about is my dad) but last night all I could think of was a time long before now. My teenage hood. I remembered playing this song then and dreaming of Love and couldn’t stop myself from laughing loudly at this thought

    Don’t worry I’ll tell you why…(laughs)

    I remember laying on my bunk bed holding my Express music phone(smart phones were nonexistent at that time), then I hit the play button and reduced the volume. Wanting it to sound calm and smooth. Wanting it to resonate through my ears and emotions. I remembered closing my eyes to the rhythm , feeling every bit of emotion and dreaming along. Wondering how love was even more sweeter than they sang. Wondering if there was something special about them that they could feel this big thing called LOVE . Amazed at how lucky they were to be loved so deeply. Wishing mine would be so spectacular. Wishing mine would be like the heavens they sing it to be. Fantasizing how holding his hands would send electric shocks to my heart like the song said. Imagining how sweet my first kiss would be. Playing the scenes of how our swim together would be heavenly. Dreaming of how his baritone voice would take all my pain away. Praying I could experience what they sang about. Eager to fall in love and drown in its bliss.

    Then….

    Finally, I fell in love after growing up… I was in Love!! Yay!! But….

    Nothing… Nothing…

    I didn’t experience the butterflies in my stomach like I dreamt of. No electric shocks even after I held the hand for straight two hours – hahaha. My feet did not fail me even after I looked into his eyes. The first kiss was as weird and annoying as I never thought it would be. Ah!

    And then I fell out of love and fell in love again with another person. I mean wasn’t love supposed to be forever with the best person. So what happened?

    I can’t even remember how many times I’ve fallen in love, yet why is mine different from the one they sing about and the one they show us in the movies?

    Maybe its like the loud saying “Love na Scam” 😂(in Nigerian voice)

    Back to now

    After realizing how naive I and other girls my age was back then. I couldn’t stop laughing at our stupidity and ignorance. Now we have all grown wiser and bigger and we know that yes love is not a scam but only love is.

    Now we know that love makes us come to you but it takes more than love to make us stay with you. Love is tough. Love is supposed to be more than just emotions. Now we know that God is bigger and he is love. He is the biggest expression of love. Our love for him makes us love deeply and passionately.

    Love with commitment
    Love with bravely
    Love with purpose
    Love with God……because
    God is Love.

    Just love is never enough.

    What misconceptions about love and relationships did you have growing up? And have you found love? I’d love to here all your responses in the comment section below.

    P/S – never thought I’ll be able to share this silly part of my story with anyone but here I am, doing just that. I need a hug…